I had been fascinated by the idea of bisexuality. Crazy young women! I knew that I wasn’t a lesbian for life. We had a nasty fight, threw dishes, and broke up. We lived in different places and visited each other and traveled around Oregon. We spent one night with our tops off and one with our bottoms off, then the third time was the charm. We made love the first time in our friend’s house on the floor. I have scarcely ever been as excited by the thought of making love with someone as I was with her. She was hot! I’d call us both pretty feminine. I had been to a feminist conference in Eugene, Oregon, where I met several lesbian women.
I know that after an apocalypse, my husband could go into Prospect Park and kill dinner for us and we’d be fine.Įarly 20s, late in college. The women I’ve been attracted to - except for my girlfriend, who was very feminine - have all been super-hard-core butch. We were hiking and she kept trying to read lesbian erotica to me - those things don’t go together! I’m married to a man now. I did go on one really bad date with a girl. But after we broke up, my next serious relationship was with a man, and I’ve just never fallen in love with another woman. I really thought I’d be with women from then on.
I’d announced to my parents that I was gay and everything. I really enjoyed sex with her, so I thought, “I’m a lesbian!” But then … nope. She ended up moving back to college with me and living with me in my off-campus housing. Over the summer, I went to work at a New Age conference center and I met this woman there and totally fell head over heels in love with her. My college boyfriend had moved away and I was really missing him. Some names and identifying information have been changed. Here are 15 men and women whose college experiences took them away from heterosexuality and (sometimes) back again. And part of what you learn is that you can’t always predict whom you’ll want to sleep with. College is a chance to learn about yourself. The LUG - Lesbian Until Graduation - is a long-standing cliché, but no one’s story is as simple as that. Throughout this week, the Cut explores college life, from politics and identity to parties, sex, and style.Ī straight woman I know was asked by her boyfriend if she’d ever made out with a girl.